Holly Hill, former professional mistress and author of the new book Sugarbabe, has unusual beliefs about what will make a successful relationship. She thinks infidelity is actually good for a relationship. Hill reached this conclusion after she spent time as a mistress, charging men $1,000 a week to spend time with her, with services ranging from counselor to sex. She called herself a sugarbabe, but a better word might be prostitute.
Hill thinks men are biologically driven to cheat on their partners and believes what she calls negotiated infidelity is good for a relationship. She defines the concept as, "offering some sort of alternative for the person you love." Hill apparently doesn't believe in a little self control. If they truly love their wives, they wouldn't betray their trust.
She says that men who cheat on their wives do love them they just don't get enough sex at home and negotiated infidelity would prevent cheating, according to Hill. Using her relationship as an example, Hill is in a two year relationship and allows her boyfriend to take other lovers, but he is not allowed to stay overnight - she considers that cheating.
She seems to thinks if a woman realizes men truly can't control their libidos, and allows her partner to have sex with another, he will not cheat on her in secret. Hill gives those who do cheat on their spouse, men or women, far too much credit. It's not an issue of biology, but one of character.
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